Love Yourself

What does loving yourself look like? In all honesty, there are no great people that I know who have not once asked themselves what it means to love themselves. No one on the planet is devoid of experience. We have all had our hearts broken, faced situations that we were hopeful for, but that just did not manifest itself in the way that we wanted them to, in essence, we have had things happen that we simply did not expect them to happen in the way that they did and sometimes we can trace this back to a lack of boundaries within ourselves and others, and this rooted in the realization that we may not love ourselves in the way that we thought that we did. For a while, I knew, but never really understood that love does not always look like a red rose or taste as sweet as your favourite ice-cream but it is always kind in its expression, patient in its resolve. I find it so interesting how we accept the bad kind of relationships because we have not broken the cycle to accept the good ones. If we say that we love ourselves, we need our standard and boundaries to firm and solid, not unrealistic but firm and solid. The boundaries that we set for ourselves? Need to align with who we are, not what looks attractive, not what impresses others. Because pain will come, but your boundaries will determine how that pain gets translated and our standards will determine who faces that pain with us, who causes the pain and who simply needs to go. In essence, loving yourself looks like having healthy boundaries and standards.

Tags: boundaries, capability, experience, inspirational, introspection, love, motivational, pain, patience, self-worth, wisdom